The Power of Your Word Pt 4

 Connecting To Life and Love With Your Words

Candy's Photo 2“Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.  – Don Miguel Ruiz

Dear Heartlove.pngFriend

I am touched by your comments on this series on the power of your word and how it is reminding you of the importance of your day to day practices .

I am hoping this post will incite you as researching it has me, to be even more aware and diligent regarding your thoughts and words. In this climate of extreme negativity lmother-teresaet’s remember now is the time, perhaps more than ever to be mindful of our inner power to mitigate, neutralize, and transcend unwanted negativity. Let’s set and reset our intention to be ambassadors of love, kindness and goodwill. If not us…who? If not now… When?

I am including inspiring excerpts on the power of words to evoke connection, love, and unity, from two different perspectives. If you would like to get right to them, scroll down to the first one beginning with Luther Burbank’s story.

Otherwise, let me share a personal experience of the energetic power that words have.

Back in the day, I used to affirm that I couldn’t grow plants. I would say, “Even cactus die under my care.”

One day in my discouragement over another plant that hadn’t survived under my care,gardenaug10-034 I had an aha moment. I began to question if my words and beliefs were self-fulfilling prophecies. I reframed my underlying belief about my creative abilities and mindset. I began talking to  plants, declaring my willingness to learn what they needed in order for them to grow and thrive. Overtime, they began to grow into beautiful plush plants.

Of course, my experiment wasn’t scientific, but upon reflection it became apparent how changing my thoughts and language shifted my belief to expect a more positive outcome.

Luther Burbank’s Experiment

Now on to the amazing story of a scientific approach: Luther Burbank, botanist, horticulturist and pioneer in agriculture science, over his 55-year career with plants, also, referred to humanity as a human plant needing love.

Here are excerpts of Burbanks’ experiment with creating thornless cactus:

The famous botanist, Luther Burbank, conducted a very interesting experiment. He developed many different species prickleypearof plants and one of his goals was an attempt to develop a spineless cactus. He would take a cactus and remove its spines, to see if it would live and then be reproduced as a spineless cactus. Each time he did that, the plant would die. He replicated the experiment several times without success.”

The Power of a Caring, Kind Word

“Then one day, being an energy-minded person himself, he had a thought – he would talk to his plant. He assured the cactus that here in his laboratory there woulSpineless Cactusd be no harm. He would take very good care of the plant. That there would be no animals or any other creatures that could come in to harm the cactus, even without its spines, and that the plant would be completely safe in his laboratory. And with that, he removed the spines from the cactus. Burbank was able to reproduce spineless cacti. ANDThis time the cactus lived!

Burbank is quoted as saying, “The secret of improved plant breeding, apart from scientific knowledge, is love.” While I was conducting experiments to make ‘spineless’ cacti,” he continued, “I often talked to the plants to create a vibration of love. ‘You have nothing to fear,’ I would tell them. ‘You don’t need your defensive thorns. I will protect you.’ Gradually the useful plant of the desert emerged in a thornless variety.”

Burbank also saw and spoke of humanity as one vast plant, needing for it’s highest fulfillments only love, and he is noted to have said, “I have observed such wondrous progress in plant evolution that  I look forward optimistically to a healthy, happy world as soon as its 

Loving Words
Loving Words

children are taught the principles of simple and rational living. We must return to nature and nature’s God.”


Alicia Hinton’s Inspiring Call To  Action

My friend Alicia Hinton, solo practitioner at her Law Office, A.L. Hinton, recently posted on Face Book a passionate plea asking FB readers to transcend the current negative political climate with words that inspire connection and unity.

Both Hinton and Burbank, as you will notice are dissimilar in their life span and their professions.common-humanity-just-like-myse4 At the same time, I am hoping the similarity of their messages of love strike a vibratory cord not only on FB, but in the global  collective conscious- ness. At the very least, my hope is that it moves us to a  more thoughtful use of our conversations.

I have reformatted for emphasis Hinton’s Face Book post, but have not changed the wording:

“…What I care about is how we can stop focusing on separation and focus on common ground.

Let’s talk about our willingness to dig for a common understanding, for a shared perspective, for a single thought or idea that brings us together.

Let’s not get distracted by candidates.

Let’s get distracted by love, 560166_10151427374636530_552397826_nby a desire to treat each other with respect, by a desire to solve problems together even if we disagree about how to go about it.

Let’s be stronger than the media.

Let’s be strong in our own integrity to justice, to a value system that is grounded in equality.

Let’s demand that a common voice be heard above arguments, power trips, and political wrangling.

if we can’t yet find the right words to inspire unity, perhaps because our role models don’t use words of unity, then….

[L]et’s post pictures of nature,of animals, of innocent children, of things that make us feel connected to each other.

Wow! I know it’s not lost on you the similarity between how Hinton and Burbank end their thought provoking messages with love, children and nature.

Hinton concludes her post with this fervent admonition, “It takes more 

Kind Word Challenge
Kind Word Challenge

strength, more character, more compassion, more faith, more respect, more grace, to seek common ground than to repost criticism. Be a voice far beyond the political debate. Seek common ground.”

Invitation To Play

Instead of my usual  offering of suggested techniques, steps or key strategies to support you in applying what resonates with you, I am inviting you to consider joining me in playing a game of gardening humanity over the next 5 days from a childlike point of view.

What if in your childlike state of mind you were told and believed that humanity is a plant that required your care?     AND

What if in order for this human plant to survive and flourish (become it’s true divine self), was through your super power of loving care?    AND

What if Hinton’s ‘Let us” (above) admonitions are the gardening tools necessary for this plant to flourish?.

Assuming you say yes to playing the game, what will that look like for you over the next 5 days?

Using your childlike imagination to implement the “Let us” admonitions  for caring for this human plant with words, pictures of nature, animals and/or innocent children—of whom you are a part—what practices/tools will you use to support your heightened conversation awareness?

What lifts, inspires activates your creative juices? Journaling? Adult coloring book? Vision board? Photography? Meditation? Music? Dancing? Healthy Eating? Exercising? Affirmations? Likeminded Friends/Community? Etc.

I am inspired to create a vision poster, of which I will take a photo and include in my next post. Your comment or photo may be highlighted as well.

If playing the game doesn’t resonate with you, and you prefer not to play, of course that is perfectly fine. However, would you be willing to comment in the comment box below, on your current practice and state of mind? And how it is serving your soul’s longing to connect with Life and Love?  I promise to read them all.

The main thing is REMEMBER TO VOTE!

Meanwhile here are some scriptures that I trust you will find useful to meditate on as we move closer to election day.

James 3:2  – “For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body”

Proverbs 18:21 –  “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

Proverbs 25:11 – ” A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.”honeycomb-proverbs-16-24

Ecclesiastes 10:12 – “The words of a wise man’s mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself.”

As we know, we are what we think all day long. Let’s align ourselves with the Infinite Source of Life and let Life flow through us as right action and true expression.

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The Power of Your Word Pt 3

Are You Hostage To Your Opinions?

Candy's Photo 2If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart.”          — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Dear Heartlove.png Friend,

With tongue in cheek I ask, have you noticed the current climate of robust words and divided opinions about our political scene?

Of course, the news about the Brad and Angelina divorce, the last shooting by a police officer, or an individual shooting a police officer, add to an already fertile field of heated debate and conversation.

Let me be clear, while this series is NOT about the current opinionated political climate, at the same time, I do understand the fear, anger, pain and rage that is rampaging throughout the country.

Personally, I view this climate as prayer requests. We can hold all of what occurs to be in disarray in our world, as an opportunity for the power of God to be expressed though and as us.

God can move through each one of us to bring a new order, a new peace, a new healing and a new beginning, if we choose.

Meanwhile, lets continue exploring how the power of our words play a significant part in the healing process.

Invitations – Will You Accept?

I see this climate as an invitation and reminder for us to consider the energy field of our thoughts and words, and how they may be contributing to or adversely affecting our well being.

It’s an invitation to be more conscious about planting the kind of word seeds in the energetic Universal field of Spirit that empower and uplift ourself and the collective consciousness.

It’s an invitation—rather than join the voices of anger, discord or hopelessness—to ask ourself, “Am I willing to see my circumstance, event or this person differently?”  funny-eye-glasses“Are my words and  conversations coming from a place of peace, love and harmony?”

Over time we may forget how powerful words are in informing who we see ourselves and others to be.

In case you become aware that this post has more than my usual references and quotes, my intention and hope is that these multiple sources will reinforce our remembrance of what we already know.

Those who know me, frequently hear me say that everyone is doing the best they can given their life’s circumstances. I deeply believe this as true.

This belief serves me in forgiving myself when I have spoken or acted out of what I value as my higher self. It also helps me forgive others when I perceive that they have done so.

Nevertheless, my years in ministry and my own experience have taught me that there are times when it is challenging to live on a consistent basis, from the “Truth” that we believe.

Words of Fear or Faith

I know that it isn’tovercoming-fear lost on you how the media promotes fear and separation. And Isn’t it true, there is a part of us that wants us to forget we are interconnected? Rather, it/ego would have us believe we are separate. That there is an “us” and “them.”

Having this awareness, we also know the diligence required to the spiritual practices that align more with our identification with our Divine Nature.

Charles Fillmore, cofounder of Unity World Wide Ministries offers this observation: “Know that any seed words that are planted in Omnipresent Spirit will germinate and grow and bring forth fruit “after their kind.” Just as the farmer selects the best seed for planting, so I must choose the words that will bring forth the rich harvest of plenty.”

As we know, words that are written, can be erased, but words that are spoken have an energy behind them that are not easily forgotten.

 God and Conversation

One of the abbreviated definitions of ‘word’ that Webster’s dictionary gives is: “a brief remark or conversation.”

When we go to the New Testament, in the book of John, we find these words, “In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God, and the Word was God…” What I find interesting, is the ‘Word’ (translated from the Greek word logos) is also thought to refer to the Mind, idea, thought, concept, image, and/or the conversation of God.

I love how Carlton Pearson in his book  God Is Not a Christian,

God and Conversation
God and Conversation

writes, “God is never more than a conversation (a reasoned thought) away….” Pearson goes on to  pose the following questions:

“What if God is the very language we are speaking? What intimacy could be possible?

 “How are we making ourselves manifest in our conversations with God and with others?”

 Words Bring Forth After Their Kind

As divine creations of the Mind/Word/Conversation of God, it’s also important to acknowledge that the words we speak and hear can be misunderstood.

Someone has said and clearly makes this point, “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”

Michelle’s Story: My friend Michelle gave me permission to share an excerpt from one of her recent experiences about a misunderstood conversation with her niece. See if you can relate. I certainly can:

Yesterday my baby sister…let me know I hurt my niece’s feelings PUBLICALLY and needed to do damage control.

“At the time of the words leaving my mouth, I caught what could have been pain as she [niece] abruptly left the livingroom, but when I queried her mother, she responded that my niece was like that and prefers to spend time in her room.

“After my sister admitted that there was harm, I reached out to my niece and apologized…though my intent was not to cause harm. She received it well, but I know first hand how pain can last…”

I dare say there’s not one human being on the planet who has not had a similar experience. Thank you Michelle for your willingness to be vulnerable in allowing your experience to be shared publicly.

When you stop to think about it it’s truly a miracle when what we communicate is truly understood by the other person. I found this potent reminder on Face Book, “The tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful with your words.”

Let’s dive deeper into the power of your/our words and read the following poignant poem by Ruth Bebemeyer:

Words are Windows 

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Brick – Wall

(or They’re Walls)

“I feel so sentenced by your words,

I feel so judged and sent away,

Before I go I’ve got to know

Is that what you mean to say

Before I rise to my defense,

Before I speak in hurt or fear,

Before I build that wall of words,

Tell me, did I really hear?

Words are windows, or they’re walls,

They sentence us, or set us free.

When I speak and when I hear,

Let the love light shine through me.

There are things I need to say,

Things that mean so much to me,

If my words don’t make me clear,

Will you help me to be free?

If I seemed to put you down,

If you felt I didn’t care,

Try to listen through my words

To the feelings that we share.”


Ruth eloquently expresses one of our basic needs, which is to understand and be understood. In other words, our need for connection.

Compassionate Communication

Marshall Rosenberg in his book, NonViolent Communication offers this advice:

“To communicate consciously requires attention to two areas:

I need to speak from awareness of what I am perceiving, feeling and needing, and

Through watching and listening, I need to be aware of those same needs in others.

When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.”

When we think about building strong relationships, without a doubt the words we say are essential to that process. Proverbs 25:11 gives us this reminder, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.”

Connecting With Your Word

When you come from the inner space of love, peace and harmony, you want to make everything you touch better, and uplifting to humanity.

On a practical level here are some suggested phrases that are useful in navigating life in a more conscious manner:

We never want to shame or judge others. The relationship with ourself is equally important, therefore, we never 

Kind Words
Kind Words

want to use our words to shame or judge ourself. 

Be clear about what you want. Rather than your current situation, focus on an out-come that leans toward win-win.

Let’s  use Marshall Rosenberg’s NonViolent communication model of observation, feeling and need on the following example: :

The house needs cleaning, (observation) You are frustrated (feeling)  because you want help cleaning the house (need) instead of saying . . . “You never do anything around his house,” consider saying . . . “The house needs cleaning (observation). I am frustrated (feeling), because I need some help (need). Would you be willing to be responsible for vacuuming the house once a week ?” (request rather than a demand)

Will Bowen, author of A Complaint Free World suggests this phrase “You’re probably not aware of this…” when faced with something that bothers you, 

He gives this example: Someone in a theater starts to text during the movie and the light from the cell phone is distracting…say, “You’re probably not aware of this . . .” and express your observation in a neutral fashion.

 Compassion and empathy can bring healing to a difficult conversation.

Jill Spiegel, author of the book How to talk to anyone About Anything offers this suggestion for asking for what you want by substituting the use of “but” for “at the same time”:

Example:  A friend is late for lunch for the  3rd time … “I love our lunches together . . . ‘at the same time’ I feel hurt when you arrive late . . . I feel you don’t value my schedule or me. I needed to tell you because I want our friendship to remain positive.”

In Ecclesiastes 10:12 we find this observation, “The words of a wise person’s mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow up himself.” 

When your opinions and efforts to be right are holding you hostage from your peace of mind and sense of well being, consider this  familiar statement, “You don’t see the world as it is, but as you are.”

Most Important Words

The six most important words: I admit I made a mistake.

The five most important words: You did a good job.

The four most important words: What is YOUR opinion?

The three most important words: If you please.

The two most important words: Thank You.

The one most important word: We.

The least important word: I.

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Would you be willing to join me in observing your thoughts, opinions and words over the next 48 hours. When you notice something you would have preferred to have said or done differently, be compassionate with yourself, and at the same time, try to determine what need of yours was not being met. Journaling is a great tool to support expanding your awareness.

In the upcoming posts we will explore the keys to creating connection, health and happiness with your words. If you know of someone who may benefit from this series, I would love it, if you would take a moment now to like this post and share it with them.

I love hearing from you. If you have any questions or comments regarding your experience of and usage of words and/or how you are challenged by them, please share them in the comment box below.

And If you would like more personal support, you may contact me through the contact box below.

As always, on this site there are, affirmations, and meditations to support you on your journey to self-empowerment.

If you found value in this post please be the first of your friends to like and share it by clicking on one of the social media buttons below. You’re also invited to follow me on Twitter and like me on my Face Book page.

LOL = Lots Of Love,