Pt 4 Transition And Change

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What is [the role of money] in the search for meaning? Is our relationship to it one of the chief factors that keeps us in our prison, or could it also be a tool for breaking out, for awakening to a life filled with intensity of purpose?”       — Jacob Needleman

Dear Heartlove.pngFriends,

Balancing the material and spiritual. This is the 4th post in my series on transition and change. In this post I want to begin exploring one of the questions, I, and others I have counseled have asked, which is, “How do I discern and manifest my desires to have material possessions without compromising my spiritual journey?

But first let me share a personal update.

The relief I am experiencing as a result of my right knee replacement surgery this past April has inspired me to have the same surgery on my left knee. I am remembering when I came out of surgery, it was so painful, I said, “I’ll never let them touch my left knee.”  But here I am scheduled for surgery in a week.

My friend, Bill Hinton, recently shared  that I reminded him of Charles Fillmore, cofounder of Unity WorldWide ministries who at 94 said, “I fairly sizzle with zeal and enthusiasm and leap forth  with a mighty faith to do the things that ought to be done by me.”  I placed that quote on my desk where I can read it regularly as an inspirational reminder.  So how can I not say yes to this other surgery?!?

Furthermore, the relief and increased mobility allowed me to enjoy a 10 day Alaska cruise and to participate in a flash mob dance at Sharon, my daughter’s church, as they celebrated Rev. Karyn’s 10th year as the senior minister at Unity of Palo Alto. OMG! It was so much fun, and it activated within me a desire to be able to participate more actively in other ways. Isn’t it interesting how the other side of a painful change can be so rewarding.

Now back to the main theme. But first, if you are finding value in this series, take a moment NOW and share this link with others inviting them to check it out:

As we know, some spiritual traditions advocate total denial of our desires, balance-with-money2while at the other end of the spectrum, you’ll find the tradition which advocates that it is God’s plan that we manifest all of our desires.

I believe it is possible to bridge these two philosophy’s so that you both acknowledge and have a healthy balance manifesting your desires in a way that honors your spiritual path as well? Our personality has a need for security. As a spiritual being having a human experience in a material world, we need money to survive. If we don’t have enough for basics, our lives cannot function. At the same time, with too much emphasis on the material, we lose the spiritual awareness that brings meaning and fulfillment. The key lies in the balance.

Beliefs to let go of on your way to fulfillment. If you are among those who have adopted the belief that your deep desires might be in conflict with God’s plan for your life, then you understand how that belief engenders fear in making decisions. Try to imagine the shift in my belief system when I read in Lessons In Truth—one of the core texts of Unity’s teachings—that our deep desires are God’s impulse within us.  Dr. H. Emille Cady explained the root of desire as….de = of and sire = the Father.  The context included the idea that our deep desires are impulses of the Father (Infinite Intelligence, Universe, God, etc.) within, wanting to be birthed in, through and as us.

As I began to assimilate and integrate the exciting idea that my deep longings for more love, more good, more prosperity, and abundance as impulses reflecting God’s dream for my life, the competing belief I held began to dissolve. The ancient scripture in Jeremiah 29:11 took on new meaning, “I know the thoughts I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”   

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I began to see  possibilities waiting and wanting to unfold in, through, and as  me. I suppose the keyword is  deep desires, because of course, we have surface desires as well.

Diverse Paths. It goes without saying that we are complex beings who live in a constant tension between the sacred side of our nature and the human side. While both sides long for more, the paths to having more are different. Our culture emphasizes “Do more, so you can have more, then you can be more.” Conversely, the spiritual approach is “Be more, so you can do more, and then have more.” 

Because of our blind spots we often are unaware of the habits and patterns that may have served us at one time, but may now be blocking our deep desires from being fulfilled. The pattern of holding on to limiting beliefs, unproductive habits, persons, places or things that  no longer serve us can be seductive. They are familiar and have become our default go to place emotionally and behaviorally. Usually, our default place is mostly unconscious. But, what if you consciously chose the path to be, do and have through inspiration, enthusiasm and joy? What would that path look like?

The path of fulfilled desires to be continued. We will dive deeper into the path of creating healthy balance from inspiration, enthusiasm, and joyprayer in the next post. Meanwhile, cultivate and develop more deeply your spiritual practices. Having practices in place that give you the awareness of being connected to something bigger than yourself invites more ease, grace, and support as you navigate through fear-based thoughts and through emotionally overwhelming life experiences.

When some of the Tibetan monks were murdered, the Dalai Lama was asked “How can you respond compassionately about the murderers who committed this dastardly deed?” The Dalai Lama replied, “Thats why we have spiritual practices, to sustain us in times like this.”

Rev. karyn Bradley, offers this perspective on transition and change, “… Once we say “Yes” to a deeper experience in life, “Shift Happens!” That’s when Cosmic Consciousness seems to step in and take over, guiding our paths in ways previously unimaginable… It is a journey all authentic seekers must undertake!…”

What would you like to bring in your life? Let’s each think of that right now.  And then, ask yourself, “Am I willing to become that? If not now, when?”

By setting our priority to first seek God’s Kingdom within as Jesus  emphasized, we worry less and  are morebalance-wheel able to connect to the flow of inspiration, synchronicity and realization that the Universe is conspiring for our good. As St. Paul states, ” I would that you prosper and be in health even as YOUR SOUL PROSPERS.” In our contemporary language we would say, keep the main thing the main thing.

I invite you to share what practices support you in balancing the demands on your attention, time, energy and your spiritual journey.

I always love reading your comments.

Remember, whatever change you may be going through, it will pass. However, If you are wanting support on getting through a change that is up for you right now, please feel free to express in the comment box or use the contact box to connect with me personally.

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Transitioning And Change Pt 3

Candy's Photo 2 “What if … we’re here to learn so we can grow closer to whatever you might call God, so we can become more benevolent, more compassionate, more gentle, more humble, more unconditionally loving?”                          — Lissa Rankin, MD


Dear Heartlove.png Friends,

Are You Ready To Embrace Change? Big or little changes in life that we typically identify as problems, such as, health issues, financial challenges, relationship breakdown, empty house syndrome, losing weight, changing a habit etc., can throw us off balance. As we know, in life, whether we like it or not, change is in inevitable. Getting to the other side of change even though we may have wanted it, can be stressful. A good example of this is illustrated by studies that show folks who are in the process of buying or selling a home (something wanted), their stress level  ranks right under the number 1 stress level experienced through death or divorce.

The Importance of Your Perspective. perspective-quote When faced with these kinds of challenges, what is your perspective of life? Is life for you or against you? Your perspective can make a difference in how you respond to the ups and downs in life. Think about it, if your perspective is that life is not friendly and is out to get you, imagine the response of fear that would be activated within you as a result.

As we know, fear clamors for survival and wants things to remain in the status quo where it feels safe and snug from the dangers and uncertainties of the world. This is what tends to happen from fear driven motives; life becomes an ongoing struggle of attempts to control and protect, as you try and create a world of predictability.  Hmmm! Welcome to the world of illusion.

On the other hand, what if you held the perspective that life is friendly and pushes you to your very edge to reveal and heal the inner unproductive limiting thought patters, beliefs and habits that prevent your personal growth? I love this latter perspective because it encourages and supports the familiar axiom of ‘Letting go and letting God.” Change listCan you imagine how different your response might be if you had the awareness that hidden in life’s changes are life-enhancing gifts designed for the very purpose of removing those blocks?

Personal Story: At one time it felt like loss to intentionally attempt to change a personality trait and habit that I felt was just “who I am.” One of my habits was teasing people and because my tease was so off the wall, I thought they would understand that it was a joke! Eventually, I began to see that what was funny to me was often not funny to the person that I was teasing.

To give up that habit initially felt like loss or a repression of a part of my personality that I loved. So for many years even though I would feel an inner impulse to stop…I didn’t. That’s “just me” was my refrain (Does that sound familiar?)

The Importance of Your motivation.  It is important to be aware of your motivationHave you noticed how circumstances tend to repeat themselves until you have insights that inspire you to change. In order to free yourself from your default way of being, consider asking  yourselfNo Excuses

these powerful questions: What is driving me? Am I  trying to improve myself?  Or, am I intentionally releasing blocks in order to access my power? Daniele LaPorte, author and creator of Desire Map, addresses these questions in a recent post, writing, “To be very clear, it’s not the pursuit of illumination that frazzles us, it’s the motivation beneath the pursuit. What’s driving your habit to improve? Are you fixing your flaws, or are you exploring your potential? Are you inviting the real you to emerge, or are you trying to cure your so-called shortcomings?”

Personal Story Continued: When I least expected it, Spirit once again gently reminded me: “What may have served you at one time in your spiritual evolvement, may no longer serve your highest good.” My soul was longing to awaken me to new insights, perspectives and a more mature and empowered way of being. I finally got it!

One day at lunch 2 or 3 years ago, with my dear friend Linda Shoji, we had received excellent service from the server and we let her know in no uncertain terms how much we appreciated her attention to our requests. At the conclusion of our lunch when she handed us the check, she informed us about the evaluation opportunity we had to note our appreciation in writing, which we were more than happy to do.

And yet, I had this default impulse to tease her and by saying that we were going to rate her at the lowest scale of service possible. My upside-down thinking was that she would understand I was joking because of our earlier avalanche of verbal appreciation. Fortunately, this time with great restraint I withheld my teasing comment…

The Importance of Trusting the Process. As we know, it’s not always easy to release unproductive limiting beliefs, habits, and thought patterns that have blocked our expansion. However, Change listthe process is soften through the awareness that in doing so, you are freeing up inner energetic blocks, and allowing your new more expansive Self and life to emerge. Anais Nin, author, poignantly writes,  “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Rev. Karyn Bradley, in a recent article, ” a trip of perspective” writes, “This is the time our Souls finally open up to greet us face-to-face! Waiting in the shadows of our lives, being silent partner, our Souls finally get a chance to speak: we finally have said ” Yes” to listening.” And I add, the YES refers to You Evolving Spiritually.

In other words, where you were fearful, you are now willing to trust the process and allow yourself to move into greater wholeness, well-being and more of your true divine essence. And from this insight and inspiration, you consciously set your intention to begin the process of emotionally and physically releasing what has blocked your growth. 

Personal Story Continued: I don’t remember our exact conversation, but I commented to Linda about my habit and impulse and that it felt like loss to withhold it. What I do recall is the insight and new perspective that  came…. Aha! it’s not loss to release what is no longer serving you, but GAIN.  YOU ARE NOW ACCESSING A DEEPER, MORE SACRED PART OF WHO YOU TRULY ARE, AND THE ESSENCE OF WHO YOU HAVE COME HERE TO BE.

Wow! This seemingly small, but profound  incident and shift in perspective allowed me to begin the journey of releasing a habit that I came to realize, was driven by an unconscious sense of insecurity. Although, it manifested in a joking way, I began to see it had some underlying passive aggressive tendencies.  I began to understand why the energy around that habit was not always well received…

My Insight: Although, my habit of teasing had served me well for many years, my heart/soul was longing for my beingness to become more expanded. I began to see how my new perspective 2012-4-14-2012-viewing-life-from-gods-perspective-eagle_3.jpg?w=640of gaining more of my true self rather than loosing a part of my personality created a totally empowering energy around my subsequent inspired action. I would love to be able to say this was my only limiting habit, and I have totally overcome it. But no! What I can say is the impulse  comes up less frequently, and when it does, I am able to take a breath and check within to see if it’s coming from a purer place.

Imagine that as we do the inner work of letting go of the old and embracing the new, we are simply uncovering and accessing more of our power and the divine magnificence within. Consider these ancient New Testament scriptures which state, “…anyone who belongs to Christ [Mind] has become a new [mature, empowered] person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” 1Corinthians 5:17. Also, “You have stripped off the old self with its practices and have clothed yourselves with the new [mature, empowered] Self, which is being renewed in knowledge according to the image of its creator.” –Colossians 3:9-10

Remember, whatever change you may be going through, it will pass. However, If you are wanting support on getting through a change that is up for you right now, please feel free to express in the comment box or use the contact box to connect with me personally.

I always love reading your comments.If you found value in the subject matter of this post, I invite you to like it and share it by clicking on the social media buttons below and/or by sending this link to someone you feel may benefit from this series:

LOL = Lots Of Love