The Power Of Your Beliefs

Candy's Photo 2“Belief has the word ‘lie’ in it… and that pretty much sums up what the world has us believing about ourselves.”               -Dough Firebaugh

Dear Heartlove.pngFriend,

Have you ever asked yourself if something you heard was actually true? Have you ever wondered if someone was lying to you? Or worse yet, have you ever wondered, “Am I lying to myself?” Do you believe those voices in your head that are always giving you opinions? Do you ever ask yourself, “Is that really true?” To take it a step further, do you ever ask yourself as Byron Katie suggests, “If I didn’t believe that, what would my life look like?”

Midlife Is Your Friend

With spring now underway, it is truly a time of new beginnings, growth, and weeding out beliefs that no longer serve us. beliefsWhen you reach 50, 60, or 70 years of age, it can be easy to lament the years that it took you to get where you are. But the truth is you can’t really build a life until you pull together all the things you have come to  really understand about yourself.

When I pause to reflect on my 60+ years of consciously being on my spiritual path, one of the big lesson that I’ve learned and continue to learn is to always remain open to the discovery and adventure of my personal growth.The inner work of  reminding myself of what I already know and yet how much more there is to know and grow is a dance. I realize now more than ever, that at 88 years young, this is not the time to stop working on myself. Nor is it the time for you to stop working on yourself no matter what age, stage or phase of life you are in.

Midlife Awareness and Beliefs

In her book THE AGE OF MIRACLES, Marianne Williamson writes, “By midlife, you’re probably aware enough to understand which of your issues most need attention. You’ve learned where you’re strong, but also where you’re weak. You know what parts of yourself to be proud of and what parts of yourself should change. You know what your issues are this lifetime. It might not be a time when you’re learning new things about yourself so much as understanding more deeply what you already know. And new levels of self-awareness bring new opportunities for breakthrough.”

During my midlife years as a young christian, I believed I was a sinner saved by grace.  I felt tremendous guilt and shame when I would explode in anger, have fitsself-limiting-belief-by-lee-tiller of complaining, or issuing a barrage of criticisms.  In order to soothe my conscience, I would say, “That’s just who I am.” Over time my religious beliefs gradually evolved from that of being a sinner to the realization of my divinity, and that we are in truth all divine children of God.

And so my journey has primarily consisted of releasing— sometimes painfully—beliefs that I came to realize were blocking my growth. Opening the portals of my soul and accepting that which is ready to express through me continues to be a journey of allowing to emerge, more and more of who I truly am and who God intends for me to be.

In the same way, you can see why it’s important not to succumb to the culture’s negative message about aging. According to Ron Pevny, “The reason the Positive Aging Movement has emerged so strongly in the past 10-15 years is that the dominant view of aging has fallen VERY short in providing an accurate picture that truly serves individuals as we age and our society as a whole….”

Aging With Pizzaz 

Let me give you a brief synopsis of an amazing woman who portrays  a more accurate picture of what aging gracefully and powerfully looks like. Jerri Brillhart, 98 yearsJerri Brillhart young is someone I greatly admire for her mental and physical agility. When I met with her this week to take her photograph, I couldn’t help but notice and smile as she constantly reached out to take my hand in an attempt to support me walking up a slight incline into her home.

She recently had her drivers license renewed and it’s not due to expire until she’s 101. For those of us who would exclaim “Is it safe for her to drive at her age?” contrary to the stereotypical idea of older people being unsafe drivers, she has never had a ticket and she has had only one accident to which she proudly states, “It was not my fault.”  Let me ask you, would you rather be a passenger in her car or a passenger with someone younger texting and driving…..and who has a history of tickets?

Among her many talents, Jerri shares her poetry in a wide variety of circles, including Unity Center For Inspired living. Additionally, her poetry has been published in over nine anthologies, and she is talking about publishing a book of her life story. From her recently purchased iPad, she is now active on Facebook posting photos, making comments and creating a community of friends of which I am honored to be one. Read her love-hate description below of her relationship with her iPad:

Another Kind Of Love

“Now every day of my life is full of so many surprises, since I recently purchased my iPad. At first this gadget frighten me, amazed me and also just annoyed me. I love it, hate it and ensure its complex and infinite wisdom. It almost immediately killed me. But while I am happy beyond words I am stuck with it, for better or for worse, just like bringing a baby home, I will have to learn forever, knowing I cannot send it back. I must hold it and endure its wisdom and being in its presence in my constant need of its Love.”

While Jerri’s poetry is generally more of a serious and spiritual nature, I think you can also get a sense of her humor that you can find in her poetry. poster-beliefs-achievableWhen asked the secret of her longevity, Jerri doesn’t give the typical response of healthy living, her reply is, “It is my mind and what I believe.” She concludes that statement quoting the NewTestament scripture, “Just as you have believed, let it be done to you.”

Yes, most of us do suffer losses and diminishment of certain of our capacities as we age, but I believe Jerri echoes Mary Morrissey sentiments, who adamantly declares, “We belong to God and our soul is ancient in God’s mind; in God’s heart. But this instant can be brand new for us when we choose to bring ourselves fully alive to this instant.”

My belief includes the idea that the Universe/God is good, friendly and FOR It’s creation. Therefore, I choose  to believe we can be—no matter what our chronological age, which is just a number—mature with youthful attitudes. Maturity is not synonymous with aging. Maturity is the reward from the willingness to accept life as life unfolds!

Aging Wisdom

Steve Harvey recently featured on his show six women ranging in ages 30 to 91 years young, who served as a panel to share their wisdom and experience with several younger women seeking advice for various aspects of their life. As someone has said, “No one has the right to sit on their butt and wait to die. We all have the responsibility to share our wealth of knowledge and wisdom so that others may benefit from our trials and tribulations. And it’s through this gift of giving and helping others that we are bequeathed the gift of heaven on earth.”

Transforming Negative Beliefs
Transforming Negative Beliefs

Remember today that you are as old as God and as young as this instant. It’s not the years in your life, it’s the life in your years!

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I invite you to share what beliefs may be blocking or supporting your growth.  Please feel free to express in the comment box or use the contact box to connect with me personally for additional support.

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The Power Of Love

Candy's Photo 2“There are only two emotions: love and fear. All positive emotions come from love, all negative emotions from fear. From love flows happiness, contentment, peace, and joy. From fear comes anger, hate, anxiety and guilt.           ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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happy-valentines-day-2010Be Love, Express Love
If you except Kuebler-Ross’s definition, as I do, let’s ask ourselves are we willing to love? Are we willing to be loved?  Needless to say, that is what all of us want because our essence is love.  We were brought into this world to be loved and to express love.  The month of February with Valentine’s Day highlights how much we are in love with the idea of love!  So why is it sometimes so difficult to love?  And what exactly does it mean to embrace love as an individual and as a society? I am using this topic on love to take a look at some interesting observations made by some of our children.

 Loving Action

Author and lecturer, Leo Buscaglia, talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child. The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, Nothing, I just helped him cry”

 Out of The Mouth of Babes More Definitions Of Love

Multicultural Children
Multicultural Children

Emerson says that love is another name for God. The  following perspectives of love are offered from a group of children when asked, “What is love?”:

Rebecca, age 8: “Well my grandmother got arthritis and she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore so my grandfather does it for her all the time now even though his hands have arthritis too. That’s love.”

Micah – age 6: “If you want to learn to love better you should start with a friend you hate.”

Jesus left us with this profound statement, “I say to you that listen, love your enemies.” Luke 6:27

 Jessica – age 7: “You really shouldn’t say I love you unless you mean it, but if you do mean it you should say it a lot because people forget.”

Bobby – age 5: “Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and just listen.

Innocent Love
Innocent Love

Tommy – age 6 “Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”

Chrissy – age 6: “Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”

Lauren – age 4: “I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.”

As we can see, these children have profoundly shared that in order to express love we shutterstock_93326353must be willing to act.  We must be willing to make love an action, to embrace love, to embody love.

After three years of researching the subject of love, this is an excerpt from Brene Brown’s definition:

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection…”

Love Takes Courage  

Based on the idea that there are only two primary emotions, love and fear,  it’s more love-wallpaperaccurate to say that there is only love or fear. Think about it, we cannot feel these two emotions together, at exactly the same time. They’re opposites. If we’re in fear, Brene Brown continues to fearsay it expresses as, “Shame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare.”

It goes without saying, love takes courage to connect at a deep level and share from our heart. It takes courage to give from a place that is open and honest and completely vulnerable. It takes courage to stand strong in the truth of who we are. But that is the birthplace of love. Each of us is love in expression, so love flourishes when we care for and support one another. The key to expressing love is you can only love others as much as you love yourself.

God is love, and the more you fill your life with God, the less fear you are going to have.god_loves_us_all_by_jingcarlo-d3h8ri5 Remember, when we’re in a place of love, we cannot be in a place of fear. The New Testament says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear …” 1 John 4:18 NIV.

Wouldn’t it be nice if the world was filled with peace and love. The good news is the place to begin to improve the world is in our own heart, head and hands. While the journey of expressing the love that we are is not a straight path, it can be a joyous adventure as we consciously open the portals of our heart and allow God’s love to express through us. Peace comes to us when we live and act from a spirit of love.

I always love reading your comments.

I invite you to share what practices support you in manifesting love. Please feel free to express in the comment box or use the contact box to connect with me personally for additional support.

If you found value in the subject matter of this post, I invite you to like it and share it by clicking on the social media buttons below and/or by sending this link to someone you feel may benefit from it:

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