Corrected Power of Your Perspective

 

Perspective 101

Candy's Photo 2“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”   -Wayne Dyer

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When you look at the world, what is the first thing that comes to your attention? Do you zero in on the problems, the heartaches, the fears and the disappointments, or do you first take note of the beauty, the joys and the positive possibilities?

 What We Can Learn From Perspective 101:

Something happens. It means nothing. We make up a story about what it means. The story we make up creates our reality, it creates our world. It creates what is possible and not possible.perspective101

In other words, If you look at life through a lens of negativity, life will dutifully arrange itself to meet your expectations. When you approach life from a more positive perspective, your
expectations will just as surely be met.

The concept that, “We don’t see the world as it is but as we are.”  is amplified by Rev. Ellen Grace O’Brien, who writes, The reactions we experience are based on the meeting of an external stimulus and our own internal conditioning. The ignorant believe that what they see is how IT IS. The wise understand that what they see is how THEY ARE.”

Remember the New Testament story of the woman who poured oil on Jesus’ feet and wiped his feet with her hair. One of the disciples saw it, and from his point of view it was a waste of valuable oil which could have been sold for money. From Jesus’ perspective this woman was providing a valuable service that was preparing him for his death. Going beyond the literal rightness and wrongness of these perspectives, this story also represents different points of view that can be experienced within an individual.

Personality and Soul Views

The ancients teach that as individuals, we can experience two completely different states of reality at the spirit-soul-body.jpg?w=652same time, from our personality and from our soul.  The soul simply refers to the aspect of our being that is completely aware of its expanded nature no matter what we may be experiencing in our lives.

For example, author Pema Chödron talks about being hungry, cold and tired but at that same time deeply content. Ram Dass speaks of how the emotional heart can be breaking while we recognize that all is unfolding perfectly.

I invite you to consider that these states of being are not theorectical, but in our power to obtain and sustain, if we choose.  The more important question to consider is, ARE WE WILLING TO ALLOW OURSELVES TO BE PRESENT WITH THE DISCOMFORT OF THE PERSONALITY AND THEREBY SHIFT OUR EXPERIENCE OF THE DISCOMFORT?

Of course we can agree that it’s easier said than done. Never-the-less, can perspective-quoteyou also agree that from this perspective the quality of your living is determined not so much by what life brings you as much as by the attitude you bring to life. It’s not so much by what happens to you as much as by the way your mind looks at what happens and the story you make up about what happens. With a positve outlook, rather than the experience of life as a chore, you can experience life as an adventure.

What You See Is What You Get

One of the greatest lessons I learned on how your perspective can shape your experience was in the 1960s. During the height of the civil rights movement my anger was ignited to the boiling point. angerThe form of police brutality exhibited with people being attacked by dogs and sprayed with water from fire hoses was unbearable to watch. My intense focus on the overt unfairness and injustices being displayed on TV, increased the rage I was feeling. I wanted justice and I wanted it NOW!!

From the dark colored lens from which I was viewing the world, my perspective readily lent itself to my experience of all whites as racist.  Even my majority white church community shifted in my mind from the warm friendly loving people I had known to become the face of “racist enemies.”

In psychology this is called “CONFIRMATION BIAS.”

Attitude Sign

Perspective Sign

Wikipedia Encyclopedia defines Confirmation  Bias as, It is the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms one’s preexisting beliefs or hypotheses, WHILE GIVING DISPROPORTIONATELY LESS CONSIDERATION TO ALTERNATIVE POSSIBILITIES.”

So, while Imight have been right about unfairness and, injustices, I became DEAD RIGHT in  my relationships with family, friends, coworkers and most importantly …with myself spiritually.

Higher Perspective
Higher Perspective

I no longer experienced an awareness or sense of the Presence of my Higher Power guiding, inspiring or protecting me. I felt totally desolate. Eventually I realized I was at choice, I COULD EITHER BE RIGHT OR I COULD BE HAPPY. I could either hold onto the attitude and perspective of injustice, unfairness and rightness, or I could surrender to the truth that God’s in charge, and NOT me.

I chose the latter, and immediately felt the dark cloud of anger hate, and depression lift. As a result, peace of mind became my guiding light. I have made it a spiritual practice to nurture, cultivate, develop and protect a mindset that is more conducive to an awareness of qualities like love, compassion, joy and peace.

Of course, I still have moments, however, the good news is, looking for the good in situations has become a habit. If I mentally start going off track with judgments of unfairness and rightness, it enables me to catch myself more quickly. While to some it may look Pollyanna-ish, I know deep within, it’s a choice and a consistent conscious spiritual practice.

We recognize that from our human or personality point of view, life can suck. Think about it, circumstances may not  change at the rate that we would prefer, but since the soul knows no difficulties. no matter what the seemingly harsh circumstances  may be, you can open yourself to a different point of view. 12-2008finding_joy_in_the_journeyby seeing it right before trying to set it right. You recognize that there is a deep untroubled stream flowing below all surface troubles and that you are of one substance with that stream.

8 Blissiplines To a Peaceful Perspective

There is a reason we call them blissiplines instead of simply disciplines. If you want to have peace, joy, and happiness in this life, you have to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE. Blissiplines are activities that you combine with your passion to change your thinking and let go of the need to be right. Here are 8 blissiplines that can help you create a more tranquil perspective on life:in-the-beginning-1.jpg#In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth 960x720

  • Be conscious of what you feed your mind and spirit. Choose your words, actions and thoughts consciously. Choose your media influences wisely. The people you surround yourself with also have great influence on your consciousness, choose thoughtfully.
  • Observe your situation with a fresh outlook. Appreciate the beauty of life around you and celebrate it.
  •  Just as flowers turn to the sun and absorb the light, your job is to turn to the Light and absorb God’s Presence. Open your eyes to the beauty in front of you, and know that right outcomes are unfolding.
  • Be willing to dig for the blessing/lesson in your situation.Though it may not feel like it, trust that there is grace in being where you are.
  • Acknowledge that your history does not have to be your destiny. The past only matters in how you learn and grow from it. It doesn’t define you, imprison you, or hold you back from anything.
  • Be quick to forgive yourself and others. Instead of looking to justify yourself when situations arise, search for the greater peace. Accept responsibility If that’s what needs to happen, and move on to correct the situation.
  • Open yourself to different points of view. Differences are not a bad thing. In a song written by Ed and Patsy Bruce, there is a line that says, “He ain’t wrong, he’s just different…”
  • Count on God’s direction, regardless of the situation. “God saw everything that He made, and indeed, it was very good.”       -Genesis 1:31

Whereas practiced blissiplines initially may be uncomfortable, they will become, if the consistently practice, your natural way of viewing the world. C.S. Lewis put it this way, “Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” Make sure your hope is an anchor, not a ship sailing away, and I promise, your perspective on life will be better because of it.”

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The Healing Power Of Laughter

 

Candy's Photo 2Laugh For The Health of It

“We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we’re happy because we laugh.”  — William James

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Have you ever been in a bad mood? Have you ever been in a bad mood when someone got you to laugh? laughter2.png?w=525&h=525Have you ever been in a bad mood when someone got you to laugh and you stayed in a bad mood? No? Well join the world!

I’d like to invite you to play with me for a moment and imagine a laugh meter that ranges on a scale from 1 to 10. On this imaginary scale 1 represents negative emotions/rarely laughs. 5 represents positive emotions/smiles. And 10 represents positive emotions/hearty laugh out loud.

Sense of Humor Check

Now take a moment to reflect on how you respond to your life experiences. Where would you place your sense of humor on this laugh meter? Do you step back and laugh at life’s absurdities? Or at the other extreme, do you wring your hands, find gloom and doom everywhere, and conclude that our world is awful and going to hell in a hand basket?

If the latter resonates with you, I’d like us to consider if we have as a society allowed ourselves to become so enmeshed in our daily routines of work, responsibilities, duties and never-ending chores that we’ve forgotten how to laugh?

Has our stress level reached the point where we just are going through the motions of living, but have lost our joy of living? Are we so busy making a living that we’ve forgotten how to make a life?

Laughter As Medicine

Ok, so we know that laughing can change your mood. But what does it do for your body? Medical literature is full of reasons to laugh justlaughter-2 for the health of it. Recent studies are upending the age-old belief that emotions just happen to us. In fact, its just the opposite. Negative emotions not only ‘affect’ health but are closer to the source of the cause for all mental and physical and spiritual illness. Laughter, on the other hand, nourishes the soul and triggers joy. It’s a natural stress reliever. It stimulates the immune system and increases oxygen, stamina and our breathing capacity.

We often choose which emotions we’ll experience. The problem is, we don’t realize exactly how we bring these emotions on ourselves. One classic example is Norman Cousins, who did research on the biochemistry of human emotions, which he long believed were the key to human beings’ success in fighting illness. It was a belief he maintained even as he battled a sudden-onset case of a not clearly identified, crippling illness.

Told that he had little chance of  surviving, Cousins developed his own recovery program. In collaboration with his doctor, he checked out of the hospital, and checked into a hotel. In addition to taking massive intravenous

Laughter and Imagination
Laughter and Imagination

doses of Vitamin C, he claims his recovery was accelerated by self-inducing bouts of laughter brought on by  videos of the television show Candid Camera, and by various comic films. His positive attitude, however, was not new to him. He had always been an optimist, known for his kindness to others, and his robust love of life itself. Cousins writes, “I made the joyous discovery that ten minutes of genuine belly laughter had an anesthetic effect and would give me at least two hours of pain-free sleep.”

Cousins continued to advocate the benefit of laughter with this whimsical statement, “Laughter is like the human body wagging its tail. Laughter is inner jogging. Hearty laughter is a good way to jog internally without having to go outdoors”

How nice would it be to push a button and instantly feel happy, uplifted, and fun? Turns out you can. Or at least exert the same amount of effort for the same results. You could rely upon your funny friends, favorite sit-com or jokes to tickle your funny bone, or you could just laugh for the joy of it! If laughing out loud is challenging for you how about trying out Laughter Yoga and learn how to laugh without comedy or humor!

Laughter Yoga was made popular as an exercise routine developed by Indian physician Madan Kataria, who writes about the practice in his 2002 book Laugh For No Reason. A handful of small-scale scientific studies have indicated that Laughter Yoga may potentially have some medically beneficial effects, including benefits to cardiovascular health and mood. Benefits to mood in depressed patients have been found to be as good as exercise therapy.

During my years as spiritual leader in the ministry, I can recall several occasions leading the congregation through this Laughter Yoga exercise. Of course, laughteras you might imagine, the initial stage of the exercise was uncomfortable. But as we continued, it was very noticeable how our connection to each other deepened. Also noticeable was how what started out as forced laughter evolved into genuine belly laughter which resulted in elevating the energy in the room to a place of felt joy.

If practicing Laughter Yoga seems challenging, repeated studies have shown that even a forced smile will lower your heart rate, decrease stress, and increase feelings of happiness. Consider a funny article, movie, or television program that not only provides a distraction from concerns; it also reminds you of the absurdity of allowing outer circumstances impede your awareness of and accessing the joy of God within you. As Scripture informs us, “Don’t be sad, because the joy of the Lord will make you strong.” ERV              –Nehemiah 8:10

Of course, a deep, hearty laugh impacts your entire being in a positive way. As you chuckle, you release tension, which allows you to view your world with a positive outlook and perceive the possibility for good that each day holds. As someone has said, “Laughter sparkles like a splash of water in the sunlight.”

Brightening Your Outlook

If you’d like to choose to be happy more often, remember, Jesus instructions, “Except ye be converted and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the Kingdom of Heaven.”   -Matthew 18:3  

When life seems overly serious, a good smile1laugh can help your outlook for the day be from a truer, brighter perspective. To kickstart your effort to enter into a playful childlike mindset, keeping your imaginary laugh meter in mind, read the following three jokes and see if you can move your imaginary needle into the upper hearty laugh out loud range:

“I’m not into working out. My philosophy is no pain, no pain. I’m in shape. Round is a shape.”

“Ever notice that anyone going slower than you is an idiot, but anyone going faster than you is a maniac?”

You have to stay in shape. My mother started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She’s 97 now and we have no idea where she is.”

Thanks for playing with me. How did it go? Perhaps by choosing to laugh, your greatest realization will be that you dispel any illusion of separation joyfrom God. The more you are aware of your oneness with God, the more reason you have to laugh and be happy.  In the Psalms we find this emphatic expression, “Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy.” Psalm 126.2  I also love this version, “Then was our mouth filled with laughter – Then were we happy; completely happy.”

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I love hearing from you. Your comments are genuinely welcomed and appreciated, whether by email, verbally or in the comment section below. However, please know that when you reply in the comment section below it creates a conversation thread. The thread is useful to others and in guiding my awareness on how well my posts are in service yo you.

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