“We are lifted out of the past, out of fear, out of worry, out of lack, and out of bondage to conditions, any condition, when we cease identifying ourselves with it. Speak a new word today–a word of hope and of faith that with God, all things are possible.” -Ellen Grace O’Brian
I want to preface the conclusion of this series by sharing a personal story on how the meaning we give to a word or an event can empower or disempower our experience of it.
I don’t usually like words that label because they are often used in a confining and limiting way.
At the same time, as a born-again introvert-–meaning coming to a fuller realization and acceptance of my introversion preference for reflection, solitude and writing—except when I’m teaching or facilitating a class or workshop—I now find myself joyfully leaning into the label and category of an introvert with extrovert tendencies?!?
Hmmm…more labels. Hang in with me and hopefully it will become clearer.
Here’s what’s interesting about words, even when they have a societal agreed-upon meaning, the bottom line is they have the meaning we give them based upon our experiences and inner filters .
In my younger years I saw myself as an extrovert, at the time I thought introverts were by necessity shy. And I saw myself as friendly and outgoing.
Even after slightly exploring the Myers-Briggs Personality Types where I clearly showed up in the introversion field, I continued to refer to myself as an extrovert. I couldn’t put together the meaning I had given my outgoing nature with what the studies suggested about the traits and tendencies of introversion.
However, when I met my husband, Pres, whose personality was far beyond mine on the extroversion scale, the meaning and label I gave him was an “extreme” extrovert.
So, as you can see, I had both of us neatly categorized and fitting into a box that suited the limited meanings I had given to our personalities.
However, overtime I began to gradually back into accepting my introversion traits, as I noticed the situations that stimulated and energized him, exhausted me.
As I learned to listen to my body, it became apparent that in order to feel renewed and reinvigorated it was important for me to have less energetic stimulus and more quiet time for meditation and reflection.
I, now embrace my expanded understanding of introversion and lean into the “label” of myself as an introvert with extrovert tendencies.
I’m not sure I’ve made myself any more clear, except to say because of the expanded meanings I have given the words introvert and extrovert, I was able to drop “extreme” from the label I had given Pres’ extroverted personality. I realized he was just being true to who he came here to be.
I have come full circle. GO FIGURE!
What You Are Speaks Louder Than Words
How do you typically communicate? Do you prefer texting using abbreviations and/or emojis instead of the actual word, emailing, or
verbal communication in person, via the phone,, or at the least Skype?
Most language experts assure us that communication Is more than words. In fact, a large part of what is communicated is called body language. It involves the tone, gestures, emotions, thoughts,and the intention of the communicator.
With that being said, based on the Arc of Distortion concept, often what is intended is not what is heard. (I’ll address the consciousness of the listener in a future post)
To get a playful sense of the various ways a word can be expressed depending on the energetic consciousness of the speaker try this simple exercise. Speak the word “Oh” adding the inflection of the mood assigned to it:
- Oh! – (sad)
- Oh! – (angry)
- Oh! – (happy)
- Oh! – (enthusiastic)
- Oh! – (depressed)
- Oh! – (fear)
This exercise is a reminder that illustrates how a portion of what we communicate to others comes through the energetic field of our consciousness or our unconsciousness.
Think for a moment what that means.To have an authentic voice it’s absolutely essential that the sound of your voice and the words you speak align with who you are.
Putting First Things First
Remember the riddle ‘which comes first, the chicken or the egg’? Do you ever wonder which comes first, the thought that influences the power of the word, or is it the word that influences the power of the thought?
What if it’s a combination of both?
What if words, without conviction, have no power, and conviction without words have no power?
What if the energetic Life Force within is activated by the conviction behind the word?
What if it is your word that creates a mold which decides which form your thought is to take as it assumes shape and becomes a part of your experience?
What if the greater the consciousness behind the word, the more power it will have.
What if it is our belief, our faith, and the thoughts we hold in mind according to those beliefs that create?
What if our word reveals-the choice point of how and what we will create in our lives?
What Does Your Word Reveal?
No matter what your answers might be to those questions, I think we can all relate to Maria Shriver’s articulate expression about speaking wrongly at times.
In her recent I’ve Been Thinking post, she poignantly makes this observation, “…We’ve all used the wrong words at the wrong time. I know I have. Sometimes I speak without thinking (yes, I do that). Sometimes my tone changes how my words are received. Sometimes I put the words in the wrong order. Sometimes I’m tired and in a rush and I text or e-mail my words, only to discover that they landed in a totally different way than I intended. Sometimes I can’t even find the right words, much less the right order, and that’s from someone who’s a word lover and a wordsmith…”
I certainly agree that there is the part of us that at times says things that cover-up God’s perfect idea of who we truly are?
It’s at times like these where the spiritual practices of denials and affirmations can serve us.
If you except as I do, the research that has proven that everything is energy and that we are energy systems, then it makes sense that the energy we walk around with creates the situations we get.
Most of us are aware of affirmations, maybe not so much about denials and how they can serve you.
Unlike psychological denial, spiritual denial does not pretend that the situation did not happen. Instead it denies the power that situation has over you.
Denial is the ability to let go of the old, the outworn, the negative attitude, the incorrect belief. It is also the ability to refuse, to reject. It is the great “nay, nay” saying power of mind.
Denial is the mental process of erasing false beliefs from your mind. These false beliefs could be “I’m not good enough.” “I am not worthy.” “No one takes me seriously.” Etc.
The process of denials and affirmations/declarations help clear away the energy of unresolved feelings, emotions and beliefs that are no longer serving you.
The blocked energy centers prevent the abundance of the universe to flow your way. if we are clear, the energy moves in one direction. If we aren’t clear, the energy moves in several directions, and without full power.
“Make your denials as if you were gently sweeping away cobwebs, and make your affirmations in a strong, bold, vehement, positive attitude of mind.” Charles Fillmore – Teach Us To Pray
In her Handbook of Positive Prayer, Hypatia Hasbrouck illustrates the importance of the correct use of denials. Here are examples of a couple of basic forms of denials:
“(This) is powerless to take or keep my good from me.”
“The lack of a job is powerless to take or keep my good from me.”
Here is an example of a comprehensive denial:
“There is nothing in all the universe for me to fear, for the Christ that I am is greater than that which is of the world.”
Speaking a spiritual denial aloud helps to release whatever is no longer working or needed in our lives.
What Do You Believe?
I love this excerpt on letting go of negative beliefs from the book Who Have You Come Here To BE? authored by Rima Bonario, Jane Simmons and Kelly Isola:
“It is our belief, our faith, and the thoughts we hold in mind according to those beliefs that create.… When we let go of those negative beliefs, dissolving the thoughts that are keeping us limited and small, we step into the field of infinite possibilities.”
They continue to say:
“As adults, we talk ourselves into or out of our feelings based on what we judge as socially appropriate. Over time, we forget how powerful words are in forming who we see ourselves to be This is why negative self-talk is so harmful and why consistent positive mental conditioning is so helpful. When spoken with conviction, joy and enthusiasm, repeated affirmative thoughts become further embedded in our subconscious.”.
These photos of affirmations and positive words are taken from my vision book titled ‘How To Get Better With Age’.
I am including in print some of the affirmations from my photos as they are not as legible as the positive word photos are.
“I am my own cheerleader. Life is so good!”
” Anything I think or say–negative or positive–is an affirmation.”
“Positive affirmations create my future while making me feel good in the moment.”
“Today I easily release all that my body no longer needs.”
” I respect my body and treat it with loving care. I choose thoughts and words that make me feel wonderful.”
Think about it, when a word is spoken in this consciousness of life, power and action then our word IS life, power and action.
I invite you, if you are willing, for a few days, set an intention to be aware of your communication styles and skills. After you’ve spent some time talking with someone, reflect on what your underlying motives were and what level of depth you reached.
By writing your insights in your journal, this exercise will help you become
more aware and conscious of who you are and why you do what you do. To have real conversation with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.
If you are willing to share your insights in the comment box that would be awesome.
Below are two powerful scriptures for your reflection and contemplation.
REMEMBER, THE WORD HAS POWER ONLY AS IT IS ONE WITH POWER!
“So also is my word. I send it out, and it always produces fruit. It shall accomplish all I want it to and prosper everywhere I send it.” Isaiah 55:11
“The Spirit of the LORD speaks through me; his words are upon my tongue.” – 2 Samuel 23:2
As we know, we are what we think all day long. Let’s align ourselves with the Infinite Source of Life and let Life flow through us as right action and true expression.
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