“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you…God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it.” — Shannon L. Alder
How do you navigate and transition through life’s crossroads when your life feels like mush and out of control? We all experience change in one form or another. Even when planned and expected, change can activate feelings of sadness, despondency, and/or stress. For instance, your child going off to college, or selling or buying your dream home. Not to mention the feelings that can be activated from the all too frequent unexpected traffic jams, or slow-moving lines at checkout stands.
In this series, you have been invited to explore with me the notion of our inner divine design and how it may be a link to understanding the evolutionary impulse and the wanted and unwelcomed life changes we experience.
While it is possible to have an awakening experience that activates faster spiritual growth, most of us evolve gradually. I prefer listening and responding to the inner whisperings of guidance over what is often referred to as the cosmic 2×4. And yet, as you may have noticed, it seems to be more likely that perceived mistakes or experiences of suffering or pain have the tendency to push us forward to a more expanded way of being and doing.
The good news is, if we choose, the experiences can be lessons that teach and grow us. We may find that we become more compassionate, more forgiving, loving, and empathetic.
We may not want to ever go through an experience again, yet we often come to a place of appreciation and gratitude. Realizing in retrospect, it contained the gift of opening you to your souls’ purpose and calling.
Kris Carr’s Crisis Leading to Transformation
Kris Carr, the author of Crazy Sexy Diet, writes that she was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and was told it has a 100% fatality rate. After getting sick and tired of being sick, and tired of asking the “why” questions, she had an aha moment of “I am the only one in control of my body.” Primary among the changes she made, was in her words, “What I drank, ate, and put in my mouth.”
Carr’s Practices That Can Help reduce stress and Transform Your Life
- You can realize life is too sweet and too short to be bitter.
- You can change your focus from fear to faith, knowing all things are working for your highest good.
- You can change your attitude from desperation to thoughts and feelings of inspiration.
- You can shift your focus to living and doing things that move you beyond your comfort zone.
- You can affirm that your challenging circumstance is not stopping you, rather it is pushing you forward.
- You can develop an attitude of “Go for it” as life is a terminal condition.
- You can slow down and listen more deeply to your inner guide.
- You can connect more closely with friends and family.
Several books and a film later, Carr added, “I’ve been living with cancer for over a decade, and it has taught me so much about taking care of myself and living my life to the fullest…It’s about rising to the challenge of life and no matter what, refusing to give up.”
As you may know, there are different schools of thought regarding whether we come into the world with a soul encoded with seeds of genius, or whether we come into the world a blank slate. I belong to the school that believes we are born with a unique divine blueprint or design within. And as a result of free will, we are the architects or artist of how the potentialities and capacities of what we are designed to be can be uncovered, discovered and expressed, or not.
Change: Fate or Destiny
Michael Meade, author, and mythologist in his book Fate and Destiny, The Two Agreements of the Soul, invites us to consider the possibility that before our incarnation into this dimension of life, our souls made agreements that determined its purpose and calling here on earth.
In this 4 minute video, Meade elaborates on the notion of fate and destiny. I find this concept fascinating and worth sharing. Even though I have no affiliation with Meade there are offers to purchase his book which you can click off, if you choose.
Meade writes, “Each soul lives on the verge of remembering the forgotten agreement and original dream that it carries…Each time we remember a piece of why we came to life we pull the seeds of eternity farther into the world of time. The inner seeds keep trying to sprout, but often our fate must place us in a crossroads or nail us to a cross before we pay proper attention to it.”
Have you noticed that when you are in the process of change the inherent tension can stop you in your tracks. And if you’re not paying attention, it may cause you to hold onto grudges, and seek revenge. You may find yourself unwilling to forgive, and/or categorize people or yourself as good or bad. The result may be that you stay stuck in playing the blame game.
On the other hand, tension can also be the source of vital energy needed for the soul to grow. Each meaningful step you take on the path of life validates your experience and increases your trust that the Universe is for you. The realization that you are loved, not judged, and not alone is healing balm to your soul’s dream and calling.
Hmmm! Something To Think About
What if the seeds Meade refers to are our inner capacities, talents, gifts, and potentialities of greatness, waiting for our awakening, recognition, realization, and activation of them?
What if the crossroads refer to those change events in life that serve as a signpost pointing to a redirection on the path leading to the awakening of our true essence.
What if paying proper attention refers to being open, receptive and responsive to the inner nudges to evolve beyond our comfort zone?
What if at a choice point in your life you weren’t sure whether you were walking toward your dream, or running away from something hurtful?
When things appear to be falling apart, is it possible that the hidden deep self of your inner realm may be closer to the surface and calling for your attention? How would your perception change if you asked the Universe, “What is the next possibility?” Or what is wanting to emerge in, through and as me?
Let’s live in the inquiry as we dive deeper into these questions and more on upcoming blog posts
David the Psalmist reminds us in his declaration of awareness that affirms no matter where you are in life’s journey you are not and cannot be separate from your Higher Power, God.
- I can never escape from your Spirit!
- I can never get away from your presence!
- If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go to the grave, you are there.
- If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me.
- If I could ask the darkness to hide me and the light around me to become night – but even in darkness, I cannot hide from you. To you, the night shines as bright as day. Darkness and light are the same to you.” — Psalms 139
To be continued: Change: By Default or Design Part 3
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