Transformation By Default Or Design Pt 3

 Transform By The Renewing Of Your Mind

“… Only by moving outside our comfort zone of the past – letting go of a former being – will a person expand their state of conscious awareness. Now that I am desperate, I am dangerous. I am also ripe for transformation.”
― Kilroy J. Oldster, Dead Toad Scrolls

Dear Heart   Friend,

Isn’t it true that we all want to have a better life; we all want to feel more peace, more love, more joy whether it be in relationships, health, finances or our spiritual life? At certain stages in our lives, we begin to consciously ask ourselves, the existential questions of, “Is this all there is?” “What is my purpose?”, “Who am I?” At this stage, it is most likely our soul may be calling for a more expanded dimension of growth and transformation.

What if your inner divine design is for a specific soul purpose that no one else can fulfill? What if you are encoded with the gifts, talents, and passion to fully express your purpose? What if you are encoded with the divine evolutionary impulse which vibrates as your deep desires? What if you’re the artist/architect/author of your own destiny?

The Hebrew Scriptures tell us that we are created in the “image and likeness of God” (Genesis 1:27). In this series, I am using “image” to mean Imago Dei, the inner unique divine design/blueprint that is moral, spiritual, and intellectual, imprinted within. This inner essence is referred to by many as our authentic or Higher or Sacred Self. I am using “likeness” to mean creative freedom, and the ability to actualize the unique qualities and potential with which we have been endowed.

The more we are in alignment with our authenticity, the more meaning, fulfillment, and happiness we experience as our life. Consciously or unconsciously endeavoring to bring about the Imago Dei in one’s life can be seen as the quest for one’s essential, authentic self. Patience and self-compassion are essential on this quest, as it is a lifelong journey, not a goal or destination.

I am not suggesting that the journey has to be a certain way. At the same time, in our endless quest for wholeness, it does seem that adversity is often a catalyst that brings us to a place of receptivity and openness to a different and more expansive way of being.

This familiar quote by Anais Nin may help to clarify this idea when she writes,“The day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.”

The Transformation Paradox

Taking the risk to blossom can open us to discovering our inherent divine “image” and foster the process of growing into the “likeness” of our Higher Self. The process while different for everyone is often called awakening, enlightenment, born again and transformation.

As you know, I love the caterpillar’s transformative journey. It’s evolvement from its limited earthbound existence to the beauty and freedom of a butterfly, is a classic example of the process of transformation. It is a vivid illustration of the dictionary definition which says to transform is “to change the condition, nature, or function of something…” 

When we apply this definition to self-transformation we’re talking about an awakening to a different paradigm that reveals more of our potential and essence. It’s a shift in consciousness to the much larger and deeper view of oneself and of the universe. It’s a quantum leap into a new way of being that moves you closer to Imago Dei, your inner unique divine design, your authentic self.

In his book Living Originally, Robert Brumet offers this succinct explanation about transformation when he writes, “Transformation is paradoxical. It is indeed “passing beyond” the self as it is, and yet in another sense, It is simply becoming more of what one already is…”

I would like to share one of the adverse challenges my husband, Pres (deceased), and I  experienced when it appeared our life was falling apart. As it turns out it was a breakdown that we eventually chose to accept, embrace, reframe and in surrender allow the experience lead us to a path of transformation and of service in ministry. This different expanded New Thought/Ancient Wisdom path of service turned out to be the joy and fulfillment of the desires of our heart.

Personal Transformation Experience

In 1978 we ventured into real estate with the intention to create a financial investment portfolio that would enable us to serve full time in the ministry independent of contributions.

We were on our way to successfully achieve our dream when the market collapsed in the ‘80s. If you recall the 2008 economic crises, you may be able to imagine our stress, distress, and depression, as we underwent the painful gradual loss of our business, home, automobile, and rental properties.

Probably, because it was more public, I felt more shame, and humiliation when the finance company repossessed our Mercedes at my business office than when we had to move because of foreclosure on our home. My self-esteem was in the pits. I felt like failure was emblazoned and flashing failuRE, FaiLURE, FAILURE  on my forehead like a neon sign for everyone to see.

Empowering and Disempowering Questions

Paralyzed with fear, I was asking questions like, why was this happening in the economy right now? Who’s fault is this? The Federal Reserve? The banks? Investors? Us? Was the devil out to get us? More seriously was God out to get us. What had we done wrong? Why was this happening to us when our motivation was a pure desire to serve? What is my purpose? etc., etc.

Hmmm! As you might recognize, I was in total victim mode. However, as my life continued to no longer work, I came to realize transformation fails when we fail to take responsibility for our own actions.  I have since come to understand the why and blame questions to be disempowering questions.

Fortunately, for us, by the time the 1989 Loma Prieta 6.9 earthquake occurred wiping out most of our remaining furnishings. I was learning a different way to be with our circumstances… To be continued

Where is the pain in your life right now? How much of it is in your mind replaying incidents or creating horrific what-if situations? When you are going through change, Rev. Michael Beckwith recommends living in the inquiry rather than trying to get definitive answers. He suggests there are empowering questions that can move you forward.

These kinds of questions are based upon the premise that the Universe is for us and that the evolutionary impulse within offers an opportunity through life experiences to move forward toward growth and a greater experience of Imago Dei; your divine design.

Here are examples of empowering questions:

  • What is wanting to emerge in, through and as me?
  • What steps can I take to cultivate an opening for God?
  • How is this experience for me? How can I grow through this?
  • What can this situation teach me?
  • What quality would I have to grow in order to move through this?
  • How can this serve me?
  • What could be better than this?
  • What’s the new possibility?
  • What is the positive purpose of this circumstance?
  • Would I rather be right or whole?
  • If this situation would never change, what would I need to know to be at peace?” etc., etc.

The Vital Spiritual Practice of Prayer and Meditation

Think about it, how would the awareness to ask these kinds of questions change the way you perceive and experience the challenges or circumstance you are facing? if you believe as I do, that reawakening to full spiritual awareness is one of your soul’s purposes, then you know the importance of contemplative or meditation prayer.

When asking empowering questions a great spiritual practice to develop is to ask during your prayer and meditation time. Prayer is considered to be a time of talking to your Higher Self and meditation a time of listening.

Become aware of the answers that will come to you through that “still, small voice” from within, or through synchronous events, or even through your dreams. Your soul is communicating with you all the time, and its greatest desire is for you to discover, align with and express your unique divine design and thereby fulfill your purpose as your life.

This New Testament scripture reminds us, “If anyone is in Christ, he [she] is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.”  — 2 Corinthians 5:17

I would love to hear of one of your transformational experiences.  Please feel free to share  in the Comment Box below.

If you would like more personal support in discerning, redesigning and reshaping the path that is in alignment with your soul’s longing, you may contact me through the contact box below.

 As we know, we are what we think all day long. Let’s align ourselves with the Infinite Source of Life and let Life flow through us as right action and true expression.
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